I have a friend who is a step mom and rather than bore you with details, here are the highlights.

Her stepdaughter lives with my friend and her husband full time and she struggles whenever she introduces or speaks of her step daughter – and this has been going on for awhile.

Because of the stepdaughter’s mom, she was sent to live with the dad in a more stable home.

Step daughter is 18 and starting college this fall.

Anyway – I told my friend that I see her struggle with how to introduce her step daughter because, I think that she should refer to her as her daughter.

I suggested she talk it over with said step daughter and I just received an email letting me know that they are officially calling eachother Mom and Daughter.

I teared up.

How beautiful is that.

I mean………seriously…….our self esteems are based so much on how our parents are with us and this 18 yr old girl has had it tough – and when she was sent to live with the dad, the blood mom broke off all contact with her.  That’s not love.  Never in a million years is that love.

So, my email was a big thank you for bringing it up and suggesting how to discuss the topic with her DAUGHTER!…..this 18 year old girl has become such a good young lady since she moved in with her dad and new MOM.

I’m proud of my friend for asking and I’m proud of this 18 year old I’ve met only once for being open to feeling and being loved.

Love is a choice we all make to have in our lives.

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For those of you waiting on my “dating story” – i’m finishing that up.  But, I’ll give you a hint.  One of the people in this story has been given the name – “W h i t e   S u p r e m ac i s t    G i r l” – and she aint no superhero – that’s for sure……and her superpower is HATE and sharing it with others.